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Do you think sex is the only way to be intimate? It’s time to challenge society’s limiting beliefs about intimacy. We’re here to talk about the taboo stigmas and myths that have long been associated with sex and self-pleasure; in this blog post, we will discuss how these false belief systems stand in the way of our sexual freedom and discover ways to get rid of them.
What is Intimacy?
Intimacy is an important part of our relationships, a feeling of being emotionally connected and supported. It is more than physical pleasure and sex; it’s about emotional openness and acceptance between partners in all aspects of the relationship.
According to renowned marriage and sex therapist David Scharch, there are four main types of intimacy: emotional, physical, intellectual, and spiritual. Intimacy involves sharing thoughts, feelings, and experiences with another person to promote mutual understanding and respect.
Pleasure, Beauty, and Sensuality
Sacred sexuality is a powerful way to connect with the pleasurable beauty and sensuality of all the senses. From finding soft and pretty blankets to inviting the goddess of sensuality, the pleasures of love and beauty. Lakshmi is said to exist in every possible pleasure, inviting us to explore all forms of joy.
The power of sexual energy is a therapeutic modality that can help release past trauma, fear, guilt, and shame surrounding sexuality. Through a deeper understanding of our “true femininity,” we can explore the depths of our divine love and freely embrace our sexuality.
Harnessing Sexual Energy for Healing
Harnessing sexual energy can have powerful healing effects. It involves exploring the mind-body connection to cultivate pleasure-based energy. This energy can be used to redirect and change our lives in a positive way. Experiments such as moving bodies together, embracing each other, and taking breaks from sex and masturbation can help channel sexual energy for healing. Through the practice of sexual transformation, we can direct our sexual energy to a higher purpose, allowing us to unleash our potential and live more fulfilling lives.
Identifying Our Limiting Beliefs
Topics of intimacy and self-pleasure can be difficult to discuss openly. From body image issues to outdated cultural norms, there are many limiting beliefs that can keep us from fully embracing our bodies and our sexuality. Here are the three most common limiting beliefs about sex and masturbation and how to get rid of them:
“I'm not good enough.”
One of the most common beliefs that keep us from having sex and pleasure is feeling like we’re not good enough. Whether it’s feeling like we’re not attractive enough or we don’t know enough about sex, it’s important to remember that everyone feels this way at some point! Instead of letting this belief hold us back, try seeing it as an opportunity to grow.
“My pleasure is not my own.”
Another common belief is that happiness can only come from another person. While it’s important to have a partner with whom to share joy, it’s important to remember that our joy is our own and we don’t need other people to make us feel fulfilled. Discovering what brings us joy through self-discovery is a great way to practice self-love and boost our confidence in the bedroom!
"Is masturbation shameful or wrong?"
Masturbation has long been seen as something shameful or wrong, but that couldn’t be further from the truth! Masturbation is a completely safe sex practice and a way for young people to experience pleasure without worrying about unintended consequences or the opinions of others. It’s also a good way to learn more about our bodies and what brings us joy, which can ultimately lead to a better experience with a partner.
By recognizing these limiting beliefs and actively working to break them, we can transform them into powerful tools for self-love and exploration. With practice and patience, these beliefs can be a source of strength, not shame!
How Limiting Beliefs Affect Intimate Relationships
The missionary position is one of the oldest known sexual positions in the world. It is believed to have originated from our ancient ape-like ancestors and is even mentioned in ancient texts.
The position gained its popular name in medieval Europe when it was said that Catholic Church missionaries were said to have noticed that native people were copulating in a ventrodorsal (directed from the front to the back) position and encouraged them to think that having sex should only be done to conceive and use the missionary position instead. This was seen as a way to increase male dominance and create a class society. However, it is important to note that this position was not something that natives were aware of prior to being told by missionaries.
Recent research has found evidence that language is associated with gender and can be used to demean and objectify sexuality. This is a result of the dramatic cultural and social shifts that have taken place in Western culture since the sexual revolution. This can be seen In all aspects of language, including grammatical terms and poetics.
The word “p*ssy” has been used to demean someone for centuries, but its roots are much older than we might think. Traditionally, “p*ssy” is derived from the French verb pousser, meaning “to push” or “to thrust.” This indicates that the term is originally used to describe a weak and timid person, so it is likely to be derogatory. The word “d*ck” has been around for centuries, but its use as an insult has increased in recent years; it is believed that the term was originally used to describe someone considered foolish or worthless, and its usage has evolved over time.
As society becomes more open and tolerant towards different genders and identities, we should all strive to use respectful and empowering language rather than hurtful or demeaning. Understanding the power of words and how they affect our feelings can help create a more accepting environment for everyone.
Tantra: Mindful Sex
Tantra is an ancient Indian practice with a history of more than 5,000 years. Tantra is a holistic approach to healing sexual trauma and overcoming shame and guilt. The tantric practice has long been seen as a way of honoring sacred spaces (yoni: female sex organs) and the wand of light (lingam: male sex organ). This ancient form of spirituality seeks to bring harmony to all aspects of life, including sex, by using sexual energy to increase, improve, expand, explore, and enjoy our spirituality.
Through the practice of Tantra, we can use breath yoga and meditation to awaken and increase our sexual energy. Tantric massage is also a powerful healing modality that involves the placement of light touches, which may or may not be of an erotic or sexual nature, to stimulate nerves in the sex organs. This can create new sensory pathways in the brain, helping to remove energy blockages associated with trauma.
Tantra also helps us reconnect with our bodies and embrace our natural way of feeling joy. It is really about connecting with ourselves on a deeper level and unlocking our inner energy, making it an extremely powerful tool for healing sexuality.
Healthy Affection Comes from Connection
The purpose is to connect, not to hook up. Relationships offer the possibility of intimacy and potentially deeper satisfaction, whereas hook-ups may offer immediate gratification but less potential for long-term gratification. Ultimately, it’s important to be honest with ourselves about what kind of sexual experience we want in order to ensure a positive outcome.
Healthy affection in relationships stems from emotional connection. When we are emotionally connected, we are able to freely express our love and affection for each other without hesitation. This creates a comfortable sense of security and closeness that helps strengthen the relationship over time.
Also, doing something special for someone is a great way to show them that we care and love them. Whether it’s cooking dinner or planning a surprise date night, small acts of kindness can show your partner how much they mean to you.
We should only share ourselves intimately with someone when we feel our soul has been “turned on.” Intimacy is a powerful bond between two people and should be shared with care. It’s important to note that only one type of intimacy involves touching, and that is sexual intimacy; other types of intimacy include emotional, intellectual, and spiritual.
Strong Friendships are the Foundation of Intimacy
Friendship is an important foundation of intimacy in a relationship. It creates a sense of safety that allows us to be honest with each other without fear of being judged or feeling insecure. Friendships are the fertilizer that helps foster strong romantic passion and intimacy. Friendships with loved ones can also provide mutual support and resolve relationship conflicts. Ultimately, strong friendships are the foundation of a successful relationship.
Importance of Self-Love
Self-love is our appreciation, affinity, and positive respect for ourselves. It involves taking care of our physical and mental health, as well as acknowledging our worth and value. In order to live happy and fulfilling lives, we must have self-love.
Self-love is tightly related to self-worth; it involves treating ourselves with kindness and respect while nurturing growth and happiness. We cannot have a connection with others without deeply connecting with ourselves. We need to make ourselves whole because we cannot pour from an empty cup.
Here are tips to help develop a deep connection with ourselves:
- Practice self-care: Make sure to spend time each day doing something that makes you feel relaxed and happy—whether it’s reading, listening to music, or taking a walk in nature.
- Connect with friends: Friendships are an important part of caring for the soul of others, so make sure to spend quality time with friends and loved ones.
- Gratitude: Let’s take the time each day to express our gratitude for the blessings in our life.
- Get creative: Expressing ourselves through art or writing is a great way to relax and clear our minds,
- Stay away from technology: Disconnecting from digital devices every once in a while can help us refocus on ourselves and those around us, rather than screens and news feeds.
- Take action! Exercise helps relieve stress, releases endorphins, and can provide an overall sense of well-being.
Creating a Safe Space to Connect Deeply
Creating a safe space to connect deeply is critical to building and maintaining strong relationships. Here’s how to create space for a deeper connection:
Identifying our limiting beliefs
Many of us have been taught to feel shame or guilt about sex and masturbation, but it doesn’t have to be that way. By identifying our limiting beliefs about these topics, we can develop a healthier relationship with our own pleasure.
Recognize negative experiences with sexuality
It is important to take time to reflect on any experiences we may have felt guilty or ashamed about related to sex or masturbation. If we can recognize the source of these feelings, it will help us understand and overcome our own limiting beliefs and find a more positive perspective.
Seeking professional help
There are effective ways to address compulsive sexual behaviors that can help us identify the triggers of our behavior and learn how to address them in healthier ways.
Talk openly about it
Talking about sex can be difficult, but it’s an important step in overcoming your limiting beliefs about sex. Find someone you feel comfortable discussing these topics with and allow yourself to explore your thoughts and feelings without fear of judgment.
Learn from others
There is no one-size-fits-all approach when it comes to sex and masturbation, so learning from others can give us valuable insights into different perspectives and practices that will help us broaden our understanding of the topic and build a healthier relationship with it.
Common Obstacles to Achieving Intimacy
Miscommunication
Miscommunication is a common barrier to intimacy. Belittling, blame, and poor listening can be destructive communication patterns that prevent couples from connecting on a deeper level. It is important to listen to each other express our feelings and have an open dialogue.
Fear of judgment
If we fear being judged or rejected by others, we are more likely to avoid intimate conversations. This fear can prevent us from sharing personal stories or experiences, which are crucial to deepening intimacy.
Lack of emotional connection
A lack of emotional connection in a relationship can cause problems in the bedroom and in everyday life. Without an emotional connection, it can be difficult to develop intimacy with someone and make them feel truly seen and heard.
Unresolved conflict
Unresolved conflict can prevent intimacy from being fulfilled. When we don’t take the time to understand each other’s perspectives and try to come to a compromise, we’re less likely to feel close or connected to our partner.
Different communication styles
It is important to make an effort to understand each other’s communication styles and to seek compromise if necessary in order to create a favorable atmosphere for intimacy.
How to Cultivate Intimacy
Prepare a safe space
It is important to create a safe space for ourselves and our partners. This may involve the scent of candles or soft music. Allowing ourselves to feel relaxed and comfortable is key to the success of the practice.
Engage in deep meditation
Meditation is an integral part of Tantric practice and helps to calm the mind and open the heart. Take time to sit quietly, focus on your breath, or engage in visualization exercises that allow you to connect with your inner self.
Connect with our partners
In order to keep our relationship on fire, it’s important to take the time to really connect with each other. Tantra encourages couples to engage in sensual eye-gazing massages and other activities that help them become more aware of each other’s bodies and energy.
Practice Kundalini Yoga
Kundalini Yoga is an ancient practice that combines breathing mudras, mantra poses, and energy locks to open energy pathways throughout the body. By engaging with these powerful technologies, we can unleash our creative energy within ourselves and our partners.
Use spiritual techniques
The tantric path includes many spiritual techniques, such as mantras, mudras, yantras, pranayama (breathing), and visualization, which can help us explore our inner selves and deepen our connection to our own and our partner’s inner divinity.
Celebrate each other
Deeply connecting with another person requires a level of acceptance and appreciation for who they are as individuals. Celebrating each other’s unique gifts allows you to connect on a deeper level while strengthening mutual trust.
Conclusion
True intimacy requires more than physical pleasure; true bliss comes from within. It is my hope that we can all go back to Love, guiltlessness, and shamelessness, as we are meant to feel love for and from everyone. To achieve oneness, we need to reconnect with ourselves—connect, integrate, and bring it out into the world.
Intimacy is a complex and beautiful thing. It takes vulnerability, trust, and a willingness to let people fully understand who we are. I hope this article helps shed light on what intimacy really is and inspires you to explore deeper connections with loved ones.
I’d love to hear your thoughts and insights on what true intimacy looks like to you. How do you successfully connect with those around you on a deeper level? Share them in the comments section below!
